Remembering Malcolm

Malcolm was born and raised in Batley, West Yorkshire. Husband to Mavis, father to Michael and Kathryn, and grandfather to Jude. Following a move to Castleford, Malcolm became a huge fan of Castleford Tigers. As a retired driving examiner, he also loved to watch his grandson play rugby. Malcolm was a real family man and loved nothing more than spending time with them.
 
Sadly, Malcolm was diagnosed with prostate cancer and following a deterioration in his health, was admitted to hospital in September 2019. Just two weeks before Christmas, Malcolm was then admitted to The Prince of Wales Hospice Incare ward.
 
His daughter Kathryn explains; “I had not had any experience of Hospice care before, but it was such a relief for us to have Dad there. The staff were amazing and took a lot of worry and stress away from us. The care and compassion from everyone really made a difference to us as a family.
 
Malcolm stayed in the Hospice over the Christmas period, until he sadly died on December 27th. The family were able to stay overnight with him, and they also enjoyed what was to be their last Christmas dinner with him.
 
Kathryn continues; “We did not feel able to leave Dad as we wanted to be with him at the end. It was lovely that we were able to stay in a room along the corridor and could spend time with him and see that he was comfortable. We never felt in the way, and the staff were very patient with us. As I am a consultant surgeon myself, it can be difficult not to interfere. They told me that I no longer needed to be a consultant, I should be a daughter, and they would look after my Dad. And that’s exactly what they did.
 
When the time came to say our final goodbyes, Dad was at peace and not in any pain at all. We were totally thankful for this, and those final few days were both invaluable and memorable. Many people do not get this experience and we were so grateful to the Hospice for everything they did for us all.”
 
This Christmas will be very different for Kathryn and her family as they look back to the events of last year. When they arrived at the Hospice last December, the annual Light up a Life service had taken place the previous evening, and Kathryn remembered seeing the lanterns, dedicated to loved ones, out on display.
 
Kathryn will dedicate a light to her beloved Dad this year, and encourages others to support the Hospice too. She explains; “Dad’s stay at the Hospice was completely free, although we did read that it costs around £3,000 per week to stay there. The fact that we did not have to pay anything is incredible. Hospices are struggling at the moment and there will always be people needing beds there. The Hospice gave my Dad his dignity and self respect back, and that was priceless.”

 
 

 

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